Word-Of-the-Week #773: Trepidation
May 30, 2019 by Susan Clarke · Comments Off on Word-Of-the-Week #773: Trepidation
Trepidation – a state of fear or anxiety.
How often have you felt trepidation? Is there something you need to confront that you just don’t want to do? How would it feel to just deal with it so it’s all over and done with?
Once again, Steve Strauss, author of STEVE’S 3-MINUTE COACHING, sent a very thought provoking piece!
Great Question: Fear To Hear?
(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)
“What do I fear to hear?” (Or see?) (Or experience?)
Coaching Point: This S3MC surfaced when I recently realized I was avoiding having a necessary, but probably unpleasant, conversation. As I projected the thought of it onto the future the imagined emotional energy felt really uncomfortable. Simply put, I didn’t want to experience it. So there I was, uncomfortable in what-was-so right now, yet unwilling 
to experience the (imagined) greater discomfort of having the conversation.
And that’s the key to moving forward – notice the cost of what you fear to hear (see/experience) and know it will continue to accrue until you act. The longer you delay taking action the greater the cumulative cost.
Of course, one time, long ago and far away, you put off taking action on an issue and it resolved itself. “Maybe it’ll magically happen again,” you tell yourself. Really? ‘Maybe’ is a winning strategy?
Not for people leading highly successful lives. They have learned the cumulative cost of putting off what they fear to hear is far greater than the cost of action.
Where in your past have you experienced the truth of this?
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This week’s focus is dealing with trepidation. How often have you put off doing or saying something that needs to be done? Is the cumulative cost affecting your emotional well being? How would it make you feel to take action and resolve it?
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Word-Of-the-Week #772: Inspiration
May 23, 2019 by Susan Clarke · Comments Off on Word-Of-the-Week #772: Inspiration
Inspiration – a feeling of enthusiasm you get from someone or something.
When was the last time you felt enthusiasm for something or someone?
This is the follow up to last week “Blind San Diego sailor completes trans-Pacific crossing to Japan. Mitsuhiro “Hiro” Iwamoto and his sighted sailing partner Doug Smith have become the first blind sailing team to sail nonstop across the Pacific Ocean,” by Pam Kragen.
“The men sailed 24 hours a day, alternating 6-hour shifts at the wheel. Iwamoto mostly sailed at night since he’s comfortable sailing in the dark. They subsisted on a lean diet of power bars, protein drinks and freeze-dried foods. Smith lost 30 pounds and Iwamoto lost 10 during the voyage. Both also grew thick beards.
Iwamoto, 52, grew up on the Southern Japanese island of Kyushu where he began losing his sight at age 13. By 16, he was completely blind. Faced with a future of being dependent on others, he initially thought of committing suicide but decided instead to push his own limits to inspire others.
He went to medical school, studying in Japan and San Francisco, to become an acupuncturist, and in his 20s he met his American wife, Karen Young Iwamoto, who had moved to Japan after college to teach English. They married 22 years ago, moved to San Diego in 2006 and have a daughter, Leena, who’s in eighth grade.
Iwamoto runs a holistic health medicine practice in Kearny Mesa and travels the world doing motivational speaking. It was on one of those tours in Japan in 2016 that the two men met through a mutual friend.
Smith, 55, grew up in Alexandria, Va., and graduated from college in 1990 with an economics degree. He flew to Japan, found work in the real estate finance industry and met his wife, Naomi. They married in 1995 and have two daughters, Rachael and Hana. Smith commutes between Japan and the U.S. for his job with GreenGen, a Maryland company that creates sustainable energy systems for companies worldwide.
Smith had dreamed for years of sailing across the Pacific but he didn’t know how to sail and couldn’t find anyone to go with him. When he met Iwamoto, he saw a way to fulfill both of their dreams.
Most of the news coverage over the past few months has focused on Iwamoto, which is just fine with Smith. Instead, his focus has 
been on the adventure itself and raising money for four charities including San Diego’s Challenged Athletes Foundation. He said he’s enjoyed helping Iwamoto’s dream come true.
“I looked at this trip as our moonshot,” Smith said. “We needed a spaceship, we needed mission control and we needed an astronaut. There was always the plan that I’d build the spaceship, which was our boat, and be mission control keeping track of all the data every day. But he’s the astronaut. We did it together in our different capacities and we did it with the Dream Weaver. I think we both felt there were three of us on the voyage.”
Iwamoto said he plans to spend a month relaxing in Japan with family before returning home to San Diego. He’s considering writing a book about the experience from the blog he kept along the way. Smith is moving Dream Weaver to a different harbor in Japan for long-term storage. He isn’t planning to sail the boat back to the U.S. for at least two years. But if and when he does, he knows exactly who to call for a second hand at the wheel.
“We share the same determination,” Smith said of Iwamoto. “He wasn’t going to let people tell him he couldn’t do it and I wasn’t going to let people tell me I didn’t have enough sailing experience to go with him. If you tell us we can’t do something, we’ll work hard to prove you wrong. That personality trait really bonded us.”
This week’s focus is inspiration. Have you ever dreamed of doing something that you had no idea how to do? Would you risk your life in order for that to happen? Is there someone in your life that shares the same determination as you?
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Word-Of-the-Week #771: Determination
May 16, 2019 by Susan Clarke · Comments Off on Word-Of-the-Week #771: Determination
Determination – the ability to continue trying to do something, although it is very difficult.
If you were faced with numerous failures would you continue trying to accomplish something that was death defying? Is there anyone you would trust with your life?
This week and next features UT article “Blind San Diego sailor completes trans-Pacific crossing to Japan. Mitsuhiro “Hiro” Iwamoto and his sighted sailing partner Doug Smith have become the first blind sailing team to sail nonstop across the Pacific Ocean,” by Pam Kragen.
“In spite of difficult winds and currents and numerous equipment failures, blind sailor Mitsuhiro “Hiro” Iwamoto of San Diego and his sighted sailing partner, Doug Smith, arrived in Japan on schedule Saturday, becoming the first blind sailing team to ever achieve a nonstop trans-Pacific crossing between the U.S. and Japan.
The 8,700-mile trip, which started in San Diego on Feb. 24, took 55 days, though in Iwamoto’s mind, it was a journey that really began six years ago. In June 2013, he and a different sailing partner attempted to sail from Japan to California. But just six days into the voyage, a 50-foot blue whale accidentally struck their boat and it sank in minutes. The two men barely survived drowning.
Smith met Iwamoto 2 1/2 years ago and was so inspired by his desire to try again despite the odds that he bought a boat and offered to serve as Iwamoto’s sighted crewman so together they could complete what they called the Voyage of Inspiration.
Describing the emotions he felt on Saturday when they sailed Smith’s 40-foot sailing yacht, Dream Weaver, into Fukushima’s Onahama harbor, Iwamoto said he’s “the happiest guy in the world.”
“I am so happy I stood up and said I want to try again. I’m so lucky I met Doug, who heard my passion and helped me make my dream come true,” Iwamoto said in a phone interview from Tokyo on Tuesday. “I want people to learn from my experience that the only limitations we have are in our brains. My message is never give up.”
While the duo arrived in Japan with a bit of food and emergency fuel to spare, Smith said the trip was difficult. They got off to a slow start in February when a lack of trade winds along the Baja coast forced them to re-route their westward route. Then, when they got close to Japan about eight days ago, they encountered strong currents and heaving waves that held them offshore in rough conditions for days.
They also had numerous equipment failures. The boom brake — which keeps the heavy sail holder from swinging rapidly with the wind and, potentially, knocking a passenger overboard, broke — so they had to tie the boom in place, which impacted the boat’s response to changing winds. They also had electrical problems with their hydro-generator, their alternator, their regulator and their geo-location system.
Smith, who was a novice sailor with just a few months of sailing lessons before the trip, said he learned a lot about sailing and electrical repair during the trip. He also learned a lot about himself as he and Iwamoto patiently worked through all of the problems they encountered without ever losing patience with one another.
“What would we argue about? We were in the same boat both figuratively and literally,” Smith said in a phone interview from Fukushima on Monday. “We were trying to achieve the same thing and we learned a lot more about each other. It was great.”
Iwamoto is a veteran sailor, but because he’s blind there was always the danger of falling overboard if he missed a step. And if Smith fell overboard, it would’ve been difficult for Iwamoto to find him.
To ensure against that, Iwamoto memorized every inch of the boat before they left, and both wore life vests 24 hours a day that were tethered to the boat with a system of cables. There was one day when a sail line broke and Iwamoto had to make his way to the tip of the bow in heavy seas to help Smith fix it. Iwamoto said that was the scariest day of the voyage for him.
“Fortunately, Doug and I worked together very well. We have a friendship and trust on land, but when you’re out in the Pacific in a boat with just one other person, you develop a much deeper trust.”
This week’s focus is on determination. If you failed at something would you try to do it again? Have you ever dreamed of accomplishing a major feat? Do you know anyone who could help you make your dreams come true?
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Word-Of-the-Week #770: Uncertainty
May 9, 2019 by Susan Clarke · Comments Off on Word-Of-the-Week #770: Uncertainty
Uncertainty – that which is not accurately known or predictable.
“Uncertainty is a potential, unpredictable, and uncontrollable outcome; risk is a consequence of action taken in spite of uncertainty.” – Wikipedia
How does it make you feel when a potential outcome is not predictable? Does it make you want to retreat or go for it? Would you feel any different if your life depended on it?
This week and next features two incredible people who have accomplished death defying feats. First is Alex Honnold. Any idea who he is? Did you happen to see the documentary Free Solo?
Last summer, he became the first, and only person so far, to climb El Capitan without any ropes or safety gear. The 3,000-foot granite wall is higher than the tallest building in the world and towers majestically over California’s famed Yosemite Valley. Pretty incredible and sometimes hard to watch!
These are some of my favorite quotes that I think everyone can relate too.
“If your life depended on it, would you keep doing what you’re doing…or would you change your strategy?”
“You will always feel fear, but over time you will realize the only way to truly manage your fear is to broaden your comfort zone.”
“I try to expand my comfort zone by practicing the moves over and over again. I work through the fear, until it’s just not scary anymore.”
“The big challenge is controlling your mind, I guess. Because you’re not, you’re not controlling your fear, you’re sort of just trying to step outside of it.”
“So I could just, like, not do certain things, but then you have, like, weird simmering resentment because it’s things that you love most in life have now been squashed.”
And this from my long time speaker bud Steve Straus, “Life is uncertain.
There are two ways to deal with life’s uncertainty. One is to fear it. The other is to enjoy it.
Children have no concept of the future (or fear) so they gleefully experience the wonder and delight of uncertainty on a daily basis.
The key question is, do you see the wonder and delight of uncertainty or the fear and doubt of an unknown and scary future? It really is only a choice you’ve made.
This week’s focus is on uncertainty. How good are you at controlling your mind in the face of fear? When was the last time you gleefully broadened your comfort zone? Have you ever felt resentment because you didn’t do something or were told you couldn’t or shouldn’t do it?
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Word-Of-the-Week #769: Discerning
May 2, 2019 by Susan Clarke · Comments Off on Word-Of-the-Week #769: Discerning
Discerning – keen insight and good judgment; perceptive.
Do you tend to take your time when making decisions? Are you detail oriented? Are you careful and cautious? If not, how does it make you feel to be around someone who is discerning?
This week’s WOW comes from my good friend Tonnia. David P. Snyder, the author of “How to Mind Read Your Customers” says, “Discerning people are either highly conscientious or highly steadfast. They are extremely methodical, careful, observant, and scrutinizing. If you feel you are under a microscope in their presence, you are, so be prepared for a microscopic examination. These people need facts, figures, proof, and assurance.
Highly conscientious people are conservative. They are controlled, especially with their thoughts and emotions. They are cautious and suspicious of strangers. They are obsessive about quality, accuracy, and details. They expect you to care about the same things they care about. Most are extremely critical and actually a lot more humble than you would think.
Highly steadfast people are extremely hardworking, fair, honest, reliable, trustworthy, community oriented, family oriented, and patriotic. They expect you to treat them with the same respect and honesty that you would give to members of your own family. They are loyal, dependable, good listeners, patient, composed, relaxed, and consistent.
Both types of discerning people are slow paced, careful, methodical, and observant. The main difference is that steadfast people are more soft-spoken and less judgmental.”
This week focus on the discerning people you come in contact with. If you are discerning as well, you should connect quite easily with them. If not, how does it make you feel to be around a slower, calmer person? How does it make you feel when people don’t make decisions as quickly as you do? Can you see the benefit of having a team of people around you who are dynamic and discerning?
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