Word Of the Week #555: Pressure
March 25, 2015 by Susan Clarke · Comments Off on Word Of the Week #555: Pressure
Pressure – an urgent claim or demand.
How much pressure do you feel you are under at work? How about in your personal life? Do you know the difference between pressure and stress?
This week the Financial Times of London writer Stefan Stern’s article “Advice on dealing with pressure” caught my eye. He writes, “Keith Miller, the famous Australian cricket player and World War II pilot, was once asked about the pressure of playing sports at the highest level. ‘I’ll tell you what pressure is. Pressure is a Messerschmitt up you arse; playing is not.’
Hendrie Weisinger, a psychologist, and JP Pawliw-Fry, a performance coach, provides an unusually sharp account of work and performance under pressure in their book “Performing Under Pressure.” They achieve this partly by drawing on the growing body of research into the bio-chemical workings of the brain, but also by simply observing real life and talking to interesting witnesses, more than 12,000 people over the last decade.
Take, for example, their useful distinction between pressure and stress. “With pressure, something critical is on the line. Having a disagreement with your wife about how to discipline your firstborn child is stressful. Escaping a predator chasing you is more than just stress: it’s pressure – either you find a way to escape or fend off the predator, or you potentially will die.”
The distinction matters because in mistaking stress for pressure, “we react physically, mentally and behaviorally in ways that are out of proportion to the circumstances…misdiagnosing stress as pressure reduces our abilities needlessly.”
Under pressure, the authors say, we can become “mentally rigid.” We are more uptight in how we show up; more defensive when tough questions are asked, less warm and a little more ill at ease, and less able to engage in humor.” Also, we are less creative.
Blunt instruments such as financial incentives do not help either, because research has shown that these increase pressure on those seeking them, leading to “cheating, deception, and poor employee relationships,” the authors say.
In one section, the authors list more than 20 techniques for curbing bad physiological responses to pressure, providing tips to help deal with them. Lastly, they discuss at greater length how four key components – confidence, optimism, tenacity, and enthusiasm – can all be developed to equip us to manage pressure situations.”
This week’s focus is on the difference between pressure and stress. Have you ever reacted in ways that were out of proportion to the circumstances? Do you tend to be rigid and defensive when tough questions are asked? Could you be better prepared to deal with unavoidable pressure?
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FUN-travel: Baja Wilderness & Whale Adventure – Guerrero Negro to San Diego
March 21, 2015 by Susan Clarke · Comments Off on FUN-travel: Baja Wilderness & Whale Adventure – Guerrero Negro to San Diego
Our Last Day
- We awoke at 7:15 to a good sign; the morning sky had patches of blue mixed with the clouds. That gave us a better chance of flying out early with no glitches. This morning Sophia had prepared scrambled eggs, refried beans, and cheese quesadillas.
Our Motley Group
- We got packed up and departed at 8:30 for the short drive to the airport. When we arrived I started shooting video of the airport and a soldier came over and wanted to take my camera from me. Apparently that was a “no-no.” My camera read that my card was full and I showed him and shrugged my shoulders. That was good enough and I sheepishly walked over to our plane. (As it turned out, when you view the video, it actually did film the vibrant painting on the hangar).
- By 9:15 we were airborne and quickly got above the clouds. We moved our watches back and landed in San Felipe at 9:45 to gas up and clear customs. Once gain we had a relatively smooth flight and at 11:45 we safely touched down in San Diego. It was great to be home and six days felt just perfect for our getaway.
Trip Recap – Las Animas is located in one of the most remote, untouched, unspoiled
locations in all of Baja Mexico. To have your own private beach and hiking trails is rare these days. Not to mention how so much of Baja is overflowing with massive hotels that eat up every inch of land. Baja Airventures is the only provider of trips to both sides of the Baja peninsula in one trip.
- That being said, this is a wilderness retreat, not a resort. That would be an oxymoron. Only two of the eight yurts have actual stucco walls with nice laminate flooring and ours was pretty soundproof. The others have plywood floors and a canvas cover with a domed skylight. We were told they were noisy when it is really windy. There is no running water and a shower consists of a 5 gallon bag, filled with heated water that you pump with your foot. There are no flush toilets. We did have a porcelain one, however, it was not working so we had to pour water into it to make it flush. The other yurts have dry composting toilets. The power comes from solar energy or the backup generator.
Slice of Paradise
- All in all, it was very comfortable and the food was very tasty. We love Mexican food and I am sure they would cook anything you asked them. Having wine as an option would have been nice.
- As far as Guerrero Negro, you really need to go out in the lagoons more than once to get the full experience. If we were on our own we probably would not have done that, which would have been a shame. There are plenty of hotel options if you choose to do that.
Pangas
- In case you missed the news, the week after we returned, a Canadian woman was killed near Cabo San Lucas when a gray whale breached. And that seemed to validate why the lagoon is better than the open ocean for viewing.
Lessons Learned –
Travel is VERY personal!
- My Two Travel Motto’s:
- – I want to be surprised and not PO’d
- – It’s 5 o’clock somewhere and I want to be somewhere by 5 o’clock
Regina Up Close & Personal
- For Surprised – We knew we were going to see an abundance of gray whales but had no idea they came right up to the boats so you could pet them.
- For 5 o’clock – I don’t want to have my entire day planned and filled from early morning until night. It’s just too much. And we had to option of doing any or all of the planned activities.
- Stuff happens – You have to go with the flow so “planned spontaneity” is key on trips like this.
- Size matters – When it comes to rooms, cabins & beds. I now check on those prior to making reservations.
- Over the top – We have been fortunate to have been able to travel as much as we have. Now we are only looking for trips that are “on steroids” and out of the norm. This definitely qualified!
FUN-travel: Baja Wilderness & Whale Adventure – Guerrero Negro – Day 5 – PM Tour
March 20, 2015 by Susan Clarke · Comments Off on FUN-travel: Baja Wilderness & Whale Adventure – Guerrero Negro – Day 5 – PM Tour
Laguna Ojo de Leibre – Afternoon Excursion to Inner Lagoon
- The vans arrived at 1:00 for our afternoon tour, this time back to the inner lagoon. By now we had the drill down, rolled up our pants, walked out, and quickly got settled into our panga. Once again, we had a seasoned captain who drove us out for about thirty minutes and turned off the motor. And shortly thereafter two females appeared, swimming in unison. They seemed to keep their distance while surveying us.
- Then ever so quietly one reappeared and rose from the water on my side as if to say, “Hello, here I am, please pet me.” She was so graceful and elegant; she seemed to just flow through the water with ease. She circled and dove, disappearing for minutes at a time only to reappear again. Spray from her spout sent drops of water like rain over our entire boat.
- At one point I could see her whole body stretched out just below the boat with her head 10 ft on the left and her tail 10’ on the right. I thought to myself, “Boy, if she comes up, I’m dead in the water.” But she was sweet and ever so gentle. Regal, majestic, and queen-like; it sounds bizarre to say this, but I felt a real connection with her.
Regina del Mar
- But then another panga showed up and tried to invade our space. They got so close it barely scraped the side. They were desperately trying to get her attention so they could pet her; she clearly didn’t like that and swam off. I was bummed, but on this third trip out I had had the best whale experience ever and was really happy for that.
- Our captain was ready to move on thinking we had gotten all we were going to get. And then out of nowhere she surfaced again right next to our boat. She came back for more love! She kept diving and coming up on my side giving me the most pets. I named her Regina del Mar (Queen of the Sea) which only seemed fitting. I had found my favorite whale! I thanked her for that and said, “You are the reason I came on this trip.” I was grinning from ear to ear when we headed back. Regina had made my whale adventure truly magical and the best ever!
Regina’s Blowhole
- Happy hour was a nice cold Pacifico, with a toast to the captain and our cruise mates, on the outside deck before driving back. When we arrived at Casa Laguna, Sophia was busy cooking up our “last supper.” She had laid out a spread of more wonderful guacamole, chips, and salsa for starters. Not everyone from our group chose to do the final whale watching tour, so we sat around the table and shared our day’s adventures.
- Our pilots were outside discussing the latest weather update, as a big storm was headed into San Diego, and their strategy to miss it. We poured a big glass of wine, and then went to freshen up, before sitting down to our dinner of chili rellenos, enchiladas, tamales, rice, and refried beans; topped off with another delectable dessert.
My Favorite Captain
- We all decided we were okay with “going with flow” and missing our final excursion in the outer lagoon the next morning to fly home early. The possibility of having to land in Calexico, and driving four hours to get back to San Diego, was pretty motivating to say the least.
FUN-facts – Mexico was the first nation in the world to create a gray whale sanctuary n 1972 in Laguna Ojo de Liebre, and later on in 1979 in Laguna de San Ignacio.
More FF – Laguna Ojo de Liebre is 9 km wide and 48 km long. The water in the inner lagoon is more salty and creates more buoyancy for the calves. Plus the small inlet provides protection against predators which it is why is has become one of the most favorites spots to birth.
Tom, Channing, Ophelia, Melinda, Peter & Me
FUN-travel: Baja Wilderness & Whale Adventure – Guerrero Negro – Day 5 – AM Tour
March 20, 2015 by Susan Clarke · Comments Off on FUN-travel: Baja Wilderness & Whale Adventure – Guerrero Negro – Day 5 – AM Tour
Laguna Ojo de Leibre – Morning Excursion to Outer Lagoon
- The cloudless skies with endless bright sun escaped us this morning, as the marine layer was thick and dense when we awoke. And when we realized that it was 7:15 and not 6:15 (my phone never registered our location) we flew out of bed. We were scheduled to leave at 8:00 and fortunately Sophia was still preparing our breakfast of huevos rancheros and refried beans.
- By 8:30 our van arrived and we were headed to the outer lagoon for our first boat tour of the day. On the way we had to stop to get wrist bands and were required to sit through a presentation about whales.
- It was a much shorter drive than yesterday and we had a dock today. By 9:30 we were motoring off. Sand dunes hugged the shoreline and rose higher and higher before abruptly dropping off to sea level as we ventured farther out into the vast lagoon. One lone sea lion on the shore provided a stark contrast.
- Once again our boat captain used his gut and decided when to shut the motor off. We sat quietly and waited to see if any whales would appear close by. Every 10 to 15 seconds you could see spouts and whale’s spyhopping in every direction as far as the eye could see. It wasn’t long before we were treated to another mother and her inquisitive calf. They teased us for well over thirty minutes circling around and under our boat with the occasional popping up for a pet.
- By 11:30 we were headed back with a stop at the salt factory for a quick tour. Then it was a short drive to Casa Laguna. We were so ready to chow down on our lunch of “just caught” fresh fish tacos with hot homemade flour and corn tortillas. More sumptuous salsa too!
FUN-fact – When spyhopping, the whale rises and holds position partially out of the water. It is controlled and slow, and can last for minutes at a time if the whale is sufficiently inquisitive about whatever (or whomever) it is viewing.
Word Of the Week #554: Talent
March 19, 2015 by Susan Clarke · Comments Off on Word Of the Week #554: Talent
Talent – possessing an innate ability, aptitude, or faculty for accomplishment.
Do you want to be more successful at work? Do you have a desire to be promoted to a higher position or move to a different company? What talents do you think you possess to help you achieve that?
This week’s WOW comes from Henry DeVries UT article titled, “3 key characteristics of talented employees.” He writes, “No matter what the job, there are certain qualities that all top-performing talent share, according to the owner of one of San Diego’s largest employers and the author of a popular book for those starting out or starting over in a career.”
“These are success skills applicable to almost any kind of work. They’re portable. You can take them with you from job to job. Master them and you are master of your fate,” says Phil Blair, co-owner of Manpower San Diego. He is the author of “Job Won! 500,000 Hires and Counting.”
His firm is San Diego’s fourth largest for-profit employer, providing about 3,500 jobs daily. 
According to Blair, here are three ways to be the talent that companies crave:
- Look and act promotable. You’ve got a job, but unless you plan to make it the last job you ever have, think long-term. Act like you’re a man or woman on a mission, always prepared to take the next step, to take your career to the next level. Dress accordingly. In fact, dress for the job you want, not the job you have. Showcase your work when you can. Go above and beyond.
- Create value in everything you do. Don’t just cross things off a to-do list. If you have a job to do, do it well. Commit your best effort to all tasks, large and small. That might be challenging at times, but people notice.
- Be resourceful. Think outside the box. If you’re doing a job and you see a better way to do it, speak up (in a polite, respectful way). Anticipate problems and find answers before they’re needed. Don’t be afraid to do a little legwork, a little sweating before it’s necessary. It will always pay off.
A bonus tip from Blair: Always offer to work with key customers. “They are your magic carpet to being invaluable to your company,” says Blair. “If the company’s largest customer loves you, your boss will love you too.”
This week’s focus is on the talent you bring. Are you willing to go above and beyond what is expected of you? Do you put forth your best effort no matter how large or small the job assignment is? Are you able to anticipate problems and find answers before they’re needed?
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